December 25, 2011 through January 1, 2012
Beloved, we are approaching the start of another New Year … yet another year without your physical presence among us … the beginning of the third year after the emotional implosion caused by you leaving your earthly manifestation and assuming your astral one.
While your children are joining together and recognizing their innate kinship in your love in online forums and social groups, it seems that our distress in your absence does not abate. We so miss you! We miss seeing your beautiful face on our televisions; we miss knowing your are creating music to engage our hearts and minds and souls in closer union with you; we miss knowing you are still involved in your charitable efforts; we miss everything about you. We see television clips of war zones and natural disasters and we think, “Michael would be all over this,” or “Michael would find a way to bring this situation to the world’s attention and make a difference.”
As is usual with corporeally-manifested humans, you are seeing the glass as half empty instead of as half-full. You depend so much on your physical senses and discount your feelings and your emotions and your spiritual senses. Instead of seeing the coming year(s) as a year of being ‘without’ the physical manifestation of me (which many of you didn’t know, anyway) … try to shift your perception to seeing the coming year(s) as a another year of ‘being with me’ in the larger, more spiritual sense … of ‘opportunity’ … of ‘discovery’ … of ‘re-membering our Oneness’ How can you possibly miss me? I am in your face … in your ears … in your hearts … all the time … much more now than I ever was when I was in my physical manifestation. Even when you think I am absent, I am not far away. Even when you can’t feel me as strongly, I have not let you go.
We are working on awakening your inner ears and your inner sight. So, if you feel me less strongly or fear that I am ‘absent’ … perhaps, it is an exercise in opening or more fully developing your inner, more spiritually-attuned senses. See with your heart and you will see that I am right beside you, peaking over your shoulder and cheering you on. Hear with your heart and you will hear my breath whispering my love in your ears.
How did I know you were going to say something like that? [Michael giggles.] I feel a little … um … purposeless … kinda like a rudderless ship that has been safely moored to the dock, but the rope has come untied and it is adrift on an endless ocean with no direction in sight. It seems that we were so engaged leading up to and during the trial of Conrad Murray. Now that it’s over, I kinda don’t know where to go next.
Yes, I’ve noticed that your ‘nightly meditations’ with me … to which you were so committed … are not occurring on as regular a basis as they were during the months leading up to the trial. If anyone has stepped away from our communion, it’s you. I am still here. You’ve been a bit distracted. Do you want to talk about it?
Of course, I want to talk about it, Michael. I think that several factors have diverted my focus. First, I think that my life had taken a very large toll on me. I was completely exhausted by all the demands and obligations it had placed on me. I needed a break. Fortunately, my job gives me some time off during the Christmas holidays and I am beginning to feel a little more human after getting a few good nights’ sleep. I, for one, don’t know how anyone could possibly function on as little sleep as you did for years, my love. In addition, the freedom of not having to be anywhere at any specific time … of not having to get up and rush off to work … is a freedom to which I am not accustomed. Being able to do exactly what I want when I want to do it … is such a rare gift for me … even if it is only for a few days. I cherish it.
You had allowed yourself to become depleted. I understand. You need to avoid that feeling of being completely stressed and overwhelmed beyond the breaking point. When you have gone on in ‘overload’ mode for a while, everything becomes an added stressor, the simplest task becomes a burden and the joy of life evaporates. Even the things that fulfill you the most … the things that you take the most joy in … the things that would normally provide you with the most opportunity to heal yourself and the world around you … the things that make your life worth living … become just another in a very long list of chores that you have to accomplish. Your gift becomes a job … a responsibility … an obligation … and the joy of the gift is diminished. The gem loses its luster.
It was that way for me with the music … sometimes … especially when I was very young and wanted to play … or during the trial. My life had become overwhelming and when I did get a chance to go into the studio, I would sometimes feel like, “what’s the use?” or “I’ve got to get this done.” And where is the joy in that? Staying in the joy of life is difficult in this modern technological age, but it is worth the effort.
My Dear One, a couple of books have been released in recent months and I wanted to read and digest them. In addition, the lead up to the Christmas season was absolutely brutal this year in terms of finding the time required to go shopping and getting to family get-togethers and fulfilling all the responsibilities of a grandmother of five. Lastly, I have decided to go on a Michael trip and my anxiety over that is causing a considerable amount of disquiet. I am so looking forward to it and am so anxious for everything to go smoothly.
So, it’s been a bit difficult with all these different factors weighing on my mind to settle down and quiet my mind enough to meditate. I am sorry.
Don’t be sorry. Everyone experiences anxiety and exhaustion. You are a working grandmother raising a grandchild. If you didn’t experience stress and exhaustion, there would be something wrong with you.
Let’s take each factor … one at a time … and work them all out.
We’re going to call this a ‘mental and spiritual massage.’ Kinda like a ‘spa day’ that you don’t have to leave the house to enjoy. Are you ready?
Yes, My Dear One, I am ready … and if you can accomplish THAT … you are a miracle worker.
[Michael giggles.] Okay … first, let’s address your mental and physical exhaustion because this is something that you must pay attention to. If you don’t, they will make you ill. Stress kills. You don’t need to look very far to find the proof of that adage. And it’s not really the rigors of working a full-time job and raising a grandchild that are kicking your butt (you should pardon the expression … giggles) … although that would be enough … it’s your own inability to keep up without feeling overwhelmed that makes you crazy. You want to be SUPERgrandma … to be able to work 10 hours a day and help with homework and keep house and do laundry and cook meals without feeling rushed or harried or stressed or irritable. You are so hard on yourself. Relax. You get yourself into a negative spiral. I’ve seen you do it … put yourself down because you feel unequal to the challenges your life presents … and, then, you begin to resent all the stressors in your life … even the ones that are gifts … like these dialogs.
Take it from someone who knows what it’s like to live on an up-close-and-personal basis with the constant drive to be perfect, you are not doing yourself any favors by thinking badly of yourself for not being able to handle it all … all by yourself. It’s okay to take a rest from it all sometimes … it’s okay to take care of yourself once in a while.
Taking a few minutes a day to just be quiet … to breathe deeply … to meditate or pray … to visualize the stress leaving your body and each muscle group relaxing will pay huge dividends in refocusing your energy and attention. And there are added benefits. This is where I can reach you most easily and you can most strongly feel my presence. I can massage your shoulders and neck and ease your discomfort. [Jan feels fingers gently rubbing her shoulders and neck and relaxes into them with a deep sigh.]
And as far as feeling ‘purposeless’ … ARE YOU KIDDING? [Michael laughs out loud.]
Have you forgotten what we are all doing here? We are re-imagining our reality! We are changing a world here! We are starting with your internal world, which is an all-important first step on a very, very long journey, but that is not our ultimate goal. Our ultimate goal is to change world consciousness … to bring awareness to the situations in our world that require fixing … whether it be world hunger … or calming the guns of war … or making a sick child’s dreams come true … or recreating the Garden of Eden right here on Planet Earth! That is enough purpose for several generations on a world-wide basis. And it may take several generations to reap the rewards, but with determination and single-minded purpose … with confidence in our power to remake our planet … we will succeed. It all begins with that initial first step … if you want to make the world a better place … take a look at yourself and make a change [Michael sings.]
We were distracted from the main goal by the trial, but we used that experience to develop constructive techniques to focus our minds and energy … to ease our disquiet and conflict … and to affect our reality in meaningful and significant … and visible … ways. Now, we know how it’s done … and you all saw the results. It’s onward and upward from here! We have the tools! We have the talent! With LOVE in our corner, there is no stopping this wave of healing we have unleashed. Supported by LOVE, it cannot fail. And I am always here to remind you when you become a bit overwhelmed.
Okay?
Yes, My Beloved … definitely okay.
Good, now, tell me about these books.
Well, in the last several months, three books have been released. The first … and probably the most important of them was Joe Vogel’s Michael Jackson: The Man and The Music. This is a book that has been long overdue. It is the first really serious analysis of your music, Michael, from an unbiased, objective, ‘music-critic’ point of view. We discussed Mr. Vogel’s treatise, Earth Song: Michael Jackson’s Magnum Opus in an earlier conversation. This book follows the same pattern. Mr. Vogel places each of your solo albums within its contextual framework, discusses the historical eras and political trends in play during the times in which they were released and examines each of them song-by-song, examining your recording techniques … as well as pointing out other ‘critiques’ and ‘reviews’ at the time of their release which fell short of the mark. Quite simply, The Man in The Music is a masterful re-examination of your life as expressed in your art. While Mr. Vogel does mention some of the media-generated rumors and myths that have become so much attached to your name in passing, he does so with respect for your unique talents and singularities and the unprecedented fame that you dealt with. He even hints at the impact that many of your published works have had on your children since ‘the day the earth stood still.’ He takes us right to the very edge of the cliff, but doesn’t jump off into the ‘spiritual’ arena. I think this book should be required reading for anyone who is curious about you.
The second book was written by your brother, Jermaine, and is entitled You Are Not Alone. It is a memoir of your life from as told from a brother’s point of view. In it he paints a very sincere and loving portrait … although, I think, he exaggerates his own role in your decision-making process, particularly in the years 2003-2005. While I do not doubt his love for you, I have some reservations in accepting his account as gospel.
The third book was written by your friend, Frank Cascio, and is entitled My Friend Michael: An Ordinary Friendship with an Extraordinary Man. Again, I believe Frank paints a very sincere and loving portrait but I have reservations about his book, as I always have about books that purport to tell the ‘inside-story’ of Michael Jackson.
Many of my reservations hinge on the perceptual anomalies that are inherent in the human condition. For example, Frank describes your Michael Jackson and Friends concert accident in Munich in his book. I have this concert on tape. I can watch the entire incident in this footage and have on several occasions.
In his account of the accident, he describes the fall of the bridge and says that he helped you off of the bridge and back onto the stage. He did not. You crawled off that bridge and up out of the ‘pit’ area in front of the stage under your own power, pulling yourself up by the very ropes that were supposed to have brought that bridge back to the stage in a slow, easy, gentle landing. I have it on tape. I can watch it with my own eyes. In his account, you got back on stage and collapsed in his arms. You did not. You finished the performance of Earth Song and walked off into the wings under your own power. If you collapsed in the wings, I did not witness that. I only saw what was going on on stage, but these two errors make me wonder if we were watching the same incident. In his account, you sat on the stage to sing You Are Not Alone. You did not. You limped (the first two steps … there was a definite hitch in your giddy-up … it is observable … I can see it) from the wings but you walked the stage and performed the song with all the fervor and emotion to which your fans had become accustomed … without sitting down.
I could more easily understand these discrepancies in the accounts of the performance as Frank witnessed it … and as my own eyes watch the event unfold … if there were more than one performance of this concert. Perhaps, he confused the performances in his mind. But that is not the case. It was the only performance of the Michael Jackson and Friends concert in Munich … and I watched that bridge fall with my heart in my mouth, knowing that it was definitely NOT part of the performance and praying that you wouldn’t be killed … even though I was watching it after the fact.
I am not saying that Frank is lying exactly … but I am saying that he obviously perceived things differently (at least in this one instance) than what is evident to anyone who watches this performance on You Tube or on tape. Whether that difference is due to the stress of the situation or his anxiety over your welfare … it is different from what actually occurred. And small differences like this definitely influence credibility, in my opinion. I mean, if his perception is so markedly different in this one instance to what is so easily provable by watching the performance, why should his perception not be different in the other instances to which he refers in his book?
We all perceive things differently. If there are three witnesses to an event, each of the three witnesses will describe the event differently. I’ve experienced this myself when I was a witness to a major vehicle accident. We all see things from our own unique perspectives and our perceptions color our memories of even the most momentous events.
So, I take both of the last two books with a considerable grain of salt.
The problem is that each of them did present challenges to my ‘knowledge’ of you … and I don’t like my ‘knowledge’ of you being challenged. It makes me uncomfortable. As a result of such challenges I have to go through a process of re-alignment, for lack of a better description. In other words, I go through the ‘these-people-actually-knew-the-real-Michael-Jackson-and-lived-through-these-events-with-him’ which leads to the ‘how-do-you-know-that-your-knowledge-is-the-real-Michael-Jackson’ arguments to arrive at clarity again. This takes time and effort … and a rebuilding of confidence in my ‘knowledge.’
Yes, I see. You doubt … and then you know … and then you doubt … and then you know. How am I ever going to break this cycle with you, Beloved? You must always go with what your heart KNOWS. There is no other truth. And you know what your heart knows. There is no doubt.
What most of you know of me is my essence … all the day-to-day experiences boiled down … purified, if you will … like in an alchemist’s experiments … into the impact those day-to-day events had on my spiritual identity. You don’t have the human, day-to-day, minute-by-minute experiences that Frank and Jermaine have to back up your knowledge. [And don’t put that word in ‘quotes’ … your knowledge is just as valid, if not more so, than theirs.]
On the other hand, they do have those memories of me … in all my human-ness … playful, teasing, moody, irritable … but, in a lot of ways, they have missed the essence. Because of their experiences with me during my physical manifestation, they have trouble encompassing and acknowledging the real meaning behind the events they witnessed and in which they played important roles. As you said in your description, their perception of the events is unique … and individual.
Yes, I know, Michael … but that re-alignment takes a little time to kick in … and until it does it causes me intense distress. Eventually, I do arrive at clarity … but it is a process and that process takes a little longer when my resources are so depleted, as they were just before Christmas this year.
All the more reason to spend some quality time with me in the evening, just being quiet and relaxing. Your burdens I will bear, but first I need your hand, then forever will begin. [Michael sings.]
Christmas is a time of joy … a time to be with your family … a time to remember that we have all been gifted with the gift of life and love … and to be grateful for that blessing. It should not be an additional burden … it should not be one of the many things that cause you stress and anxiety.
Now, tell me about this ‘Michael trip.’ First of all, what is a ‘Michael’ trip?
Oh, Beloved! I am so excited! I am going to Los Angeles for the Immortal World Tour by Cirque du Soleil. While I do not anticipate that it will be like attending one of your concerts, I do expect that it will be the next best thing. I am meeting some of my friends who share my kinship with you and we are planning on almost an entire week of ‘Michaeling.’
[Michael giggles.] ‘Michaeling?’
Yes, Dear One, ‘Michaeling’ … spending all our time with you as our only reality. I can’t wait! I’m flying out toward the end of the month. We plan on visiting Neverland … or, at least, as close as we can get to Neverland … and Forrest Lawn, where your beautiful body is resting (more than once, I sincerely hope!). And, of course, we will be attending Cirque du Soleil’s tribute to Michael Jackson, which has been receiving rave reviews and is currently ranked as the number one touring show in the country (of course)!
Sounds like fun! Why is this causing you anxiety?
Well, because I am not the world’s best traveler. Let’s just say that motion and I don’t always get along well. The trip, itself, is going to be an all-day affair. I am leaving my house at 6:00 AM to get to the train station a half an hour away by 7:00. It’s a four-hour train trip to Chicago. A limo will meet me at a suburban station and drive me to O’Hare for a 2:00 PM flight out to Los Angeles which is scheduled to arrive at around 4:00 PM local time … which will really be 6:00 PM Central Time! It’s four hours in a tin can high above the earth and crossing two time zones! And the same in reverse at the end of the trip. I am 62-years-old. It’s going to be a long day!
Once I’m there I will be in heaven … it’s just the getting there … and back … that has me worried. It’s the middle of winter here and while our weather this winter has been nothing short of miraculous, I do live in an area where it is not uncommon to get a foot of snow overnight. Such an occurrence would put a serious crimp in my style!
May I enlist your help? Will you please bless this trip with your presence?
[Michael giggles.] I understand. When I was little, I used to fight tooth and nail about getting in an airplane. You will have so much fun. I look forward to welcoming you. And … you know … I am with you every step of the way!
Oh, Baby! I was so hoping you would say that. And don’t you be pulling any nasty tricks on me while I’m traveling … like dropping the plane in turbulence or anything! [Michael giggles. I’ll try to restrain myself.]
Of course, you know that I am anywhere you are … I only wanna be where you are … uh oh … any, any, anywhere you are … uh oh oh … I only wanna be where you are! [Michael sings.] And wherever two or more of you are gathered in my name … I am there!
It’s not necessary for you to travel across the country to be with me, you and I are together always.
Yes, I do know, but I also want to visit Neverland and Forrest Lawn to pay my respects. It’s a funny thing, I’ve never been one to be overly attached to the sites of graves of my loved ones. I’ve never believed that their presence is restricted to the area in which their body rests … and I know that I carry them with me in my memories of them. But, for some reason, I feel L.A. calling to me … and my heart is answering.
I so look forward to visiting the areas that you walked with people who share my almost mystical connection with you. It will be a rare treat to be able to talk about you … and your influence on me … without having to put up with the rolled eyes and tolerant sighs. Just being with people who understand my fascination … and my unqualified love for you … will be such a blessing … because it is such a rare occurrence in my life! The last time I was with Michael-friends was almost 20 years ago now … well, at least, 15 years ago … 1997. It was the first … and only … time I ever saw you in person at Elizabeth Taylor’s Celebration of Life Gala. And it was only for a few days.
Okay … you have your focus for the next few weeks … your goal … your purpose! When you have reached your goal and your dream has become reality … you set a new goal … and you put all the love and devotion into your new goal as you used in achieving the first. The techniques we learned during the trial are the same techniques you can bring to bear on any event in your life which causes conflict.
Visualize your trip … make it perfect in your mind … all the connections smooth … the flight a model of efficient travel … the weather cooperative … your stay ideal … put me in the middle of it, sitting next to you in the aisle seat and holding your hand. You know how to do this. We just did it with the trial. These techniques work with anything that causes you conflict or anxiety … the smallest thing in your life that results in discomfort or disquiet … or the largest thing in your life that causes worry or stress.
Put as much LOVE into it as will fit … and then put more LOVE into it until it gushes over the sides and spills out over the wings of the plane as you speed toward Los Angeles. Make LOVE your weapon to overcome any conflict … any anxiety … any fear. Come with me … you and your friends … I await your arrival.
Oh, Michael, I so love you!
I so love you more! Happy New Year!
Jan – December 31, 2011